What is it that you do not know?

 Before I start, I must tell you that this post is something that only the ladies might like. And no, I do not mean to blame men, I do not want to sound feminist, this is just something I thought about while observing the body language of a couple having a heated "discussion" at a cafe  (Yes, I sit at cafes and write. Go on, judge me. But I'll have you know, I am very happy with my life. Not all those who crave to get away from people are depressed, some people might just need a break from all the stupidity around them) Anyway, this one is for the women, who at some point or the other in their lives, have all felt this way. It's not a bad thing, it's not wrong, it's just a part of being who we are. Some are strong enough to deal with it, while there are some who go nuts. To each her own. Meanwhile, have a nice time reading this one-

You know that feeling when you don't get a response to your texts? It's a common phenomenon these days, especially with features like "last seen at" and "read" being available on various messaging platforms.I read an article on Thought Catalog that described this as "the height of rudeness, a cyber-slap in the face. It’s lazy, it’s selfish, it’s insensitive; it’s someone being so completely consumed in the movements of their own existence that they’re unable to comprehend the feelings of others." Nailed it, eh? And this article was written by a man. 

 Sometimes, after sending out all the  random mushy messages, or even an “I miss you” mail, one wants to feel appreciated too. Just because someone understands the difficulties you face, doesn't mean you can take him/her for granted. Would it hurt to let them know you miss them too? It won’t take more than 2 minutes, I promise you. Sometimes, you NEED to make them feel special. And there is no greater feeling in this world other than knowing that you are being missed.

Here's where I would like to be extremely biased, I'm sorry-

Women have this bad habit of wanting to know everything, of being a "mother" in the relationship. Some women have that under control, while some are excessively nagging. But no matter how cool a woman is, she will never be able to deal with the fact that she doesn't know anything about her partner's plans. Nothing feels worse than NOT knowing. Put yourself in her place and imagine how you would feel if she didn't tell you how her day was? What if she were to tell you “No, I can’t” (to a point that it sounded rude) the next time you asked her for a favor? And then she'd plan out something on similar lines and tell you at the last moment? What if she wouldn't respond to your messages cos “She’s busy”? Would you expect her to call you, just to let you know that things are fine?If not, would you go through “what have I done, maybe it’s the tone of the messages, maybe I am nagging too much…no she said xyz which means she must be busy but fine, oh wait maybe her family doesn't want us to be in touch..omg what if they talk her out of this?” What if she refused to acknowledge the effort you put into everything? What if she were to give up if her folks didn't approve of you? What if you liked her for her fighting spirit, and she gave up on you? Would you sit quietly, and say “Nothing, I am fine” when she asks you what’s wrong? Would you feel guilty for feeling bad about feeling ignored?


When was the last time you surprised her? When was the last time you told her you missed her? The good part is, it's never too late. Cos hey guess what, she'll not only forgive you, but forget you ever made her feel this way. And give you a tight "I missed you so much" hug, you'd never wanna let her go. 

And the cycle continues. Love, though difficult, is a beautiful feeling.